Mom Needs A Break! Tips, Ideas, Help….For Those Hard Working Moms!

Separation anxiety affects both children and adults in very different ways. While children experience fear they will never see mom again; mom develops an overwhelming feeling of guilt.  With pre-school becoming more prevalent today; there is bound to be conflict for both mom and child.  Let us, then, explore child separation anxiety, and tips to help mom cope with leaving baby in the later stages of infancy. 

It’s important for you, as a mom, to refrain from showing your own insecurities. If you keep a positive attitude, your child will feel calm and reassured. Ask your sister to come to your home to care for your infant frequently; this allows your baby to become familiar with another caretaker and feel safe.  As your baby grows into a toddler, use this same practice. You will soon find your child will readily accept visits from your sister; giving you sufficient time to run errands, and complete all of the tasks you have been neglecting.In addition, you will have piece of mind knowing a responsible family member taking care of your child. 

Keep in mind, a child may not always feel comfortable watching you leave the home. It is important to reassure the child you are returning. Don’t give a specific time; children tend to focus too much on the clock and worry.  Call your child often; letting him or her know where you are.  This may be considered over the top coddling; nonetheless, comforting your child also comforts the child within you. The conversation you have with the child is primarily for you. It is a way of acknowledging your feelings; a reassurance that everything is fine. 

Think of how you felt when you were a child.  What did your mom do or say to you to ease the pain of separation. Although times were different back; there may have been one or two occasions when she didn’t have a choice; having another baby, for example.  Recognizing the symptoms of your own anxiety can help you to avoid imprinting it onto your child. 

Many women find that they can eat whatever they may like during breast feeding.  Even though it’s true that some strongly favored foods can change the taste of your milk, many babies seem to enjoy the varieties of breast milk flavors.  Occasionally, your baby may get cranky at the breast after you eat certain foods.  If you notice this happening, simply avoid that particular food. The most common offenders during breast feeding include chocolate, spices, citrus fruits, garlic, chili, lime, gassy vegetables, and fruits with laxative type effects, such as prunes and cherries. You can have a cup or two of coffee a day, although too much caffeine can interfere with your baby’s  sleep and even make him or her cranky.  Keep in mind, caffeine is found in many soda’s, tea, and  even over the counter type medicine as well. It’s okay to have an alcoholic beverage every now and the, although having more than one drink can increase your blood alcohol level, putting the alcohol into your breast milk.  If you are planning to have more than one drink at a time, it’s best to wait two hours or more per drink before you resume any type of nursing or breast feeding.  There is no need to pump and dump unless your breasts are full and its time to feed your baby.  While breast feeding, any type of heavy drinking should be avoided. Before you actually omit any foods from your diet, you should talk to your doctor.  If you avoid certain foods and it causes a nutritional imbalance, you may need to see a nutritionist for advice on taking other foods or getting nutritional supplements.

Keep smiling Moms!